I do agree that having a family and dumping all the work onto the woman is deplorable. For the record, I did all the 2 AM feedings for both kids.

I did all the wash and all the cleaning for a loooong time.

I worked, my ex didn't.

I do believe this: Men marry women hoping they won't change, and they do. Women marry men hoping they will change, and they don't.

The wife's standards cannot always be the only corrrect standards.